LIFE // A little advice for my teenage self...

Thursday, 20 August 2015



Hey, kid - It's future you here! You've probably got a lot of concerns right now. You're awkward and angsty as hell, which you're probably going to hate me for saying. The truth is, nobody knows these things about you better than I do, since I've been through it. Spoiler: You survive your teenage years and you're going to be just fine. Here's some advice I'd like you give you on...

Being "cool"
You will soon learn that the opinions of the NME (the music magazine you read religiously) are absolute rubbish. You'll realise it when you see the pattern in how they big bands up just to put them down again, and eventually you'll stop reading it altogether. Just like what you like: There should be no such thing as a guilty pleasure, and it's way cooler to just embrace things regardless of how embarrassing or uncool you or other people think they are. People who think otherwise are just tryhards. You don't need anyone to tell you what's cool; There's no need to be so anti-mainstream. Some day you'll discover awesome things to fall in love with just by exploring and opening your eyes a bit more. Be true to yourself and you'll be much more authentic.

Love
It's ok that you're not really interested in boys right now. Mum is going to be confused by your lack of interest in the opposite sex and ask you if you're a lesbian. You know you like boys, but you're just not bothered about them as anything more than friends until you're about 16. Even then you won't really be too sure - You're not desperate to get into a relationship. You're picky and you like who you like. Nothing will change and you'll still be the same way at 23. Your first relationship will be short-lived, but you'll realise it totally wasn't meant to be since you weren't 100% certain you wanted a boyfriend when he asked you out. You'll be on great terms and stay friends though. As for your second boyfriend, he's going to be very intense with his love for you. You'll stop doing a lot of the things you love because of him, forget your own passions, miss many opportunities, and lose sight of the things that are important. He will leave you heartbroken and depressed, without a clue how to live your life independently. You will learn to love again. There'll be a guy who was basically everything you would've wanted in a boy aged 16, but you'll quickly realise he's a guitar playing poser, total jerk and massive music snob. You'll have anxieties about moving on, and lose all faith in the idea of being tied down. At the very start of your twenties, you'll start seeing someone who makes you laugh, feel happy and safe. You'll still have major commitment issues and take things slowly, but you'll appreciate them for exactly what they are.

Fashion
You definitely make a few interesting/questionable sartorial choices in an attempt to be different. This starts in year 10, when you try to accessorize your school uniform with plastic jewellery, pin badges and wear glitter eyeliner (This was the time that the 'New Rave' subculture did/didn't happen and you thought these things were super cool at the time). In 6th form, you have a lot of fun with non-uniform, and try to bend the 'smart' dress code as much as you can. Your dedication to statement tights, crochet gloves, berets and a pair of red glitter Kurt Geiger pumps will end up earning you the title of "best dressed female" on the last day of school. Your Art Foundation year will be symbolised by a pair of black Dr Marten boots you bought in The Lanes whilst on holiday in Brighton (your boyfriend at the time will absolutely hate these boots on you, but you'll still wear them, almost in act of defiance!) You will go on to pursue fashion at university level, and end up learning a lot about personal style during this time. You'll start buying nicer, more tasteful clothes, and stop caring so much about trends. You'll have timeless wardrobe staples and fall in love with bretons, turtlenecks, wool coats... You will also fork out for an expensive Acne jacket, but it'll be totally worth it because you know that quality wearable classic items are for life. And the bleached blonde hair you always dreamed of having? You'll have it, and you'll totally rock it too. But wait until you're older because it costs more time/money than you can afford right now just to maintain.

Friendship
If you're thinking you know what drama is, you've really not seen anything yet! It's going to get simultaneously worse and better, since people will going through the same annoying situations only it's way more pathetic when they're young adults. While childish teasing and bullying fizzle out, you'll find there's more cruel manipulation and mind games as you grow up. This will also help you to indicate who your real friends are and who definitely isn't worth your time at all. You'll also end up losing contact with a few people, but it won't be because you fell out: Your lives just went separate ways. The good news is that you'll definitely have some great friends who really care a whole lot about you. When you're older, it's less about being popular or the sheer volume of fake-ass friends you have. You will learn to value the quality of your friendships over the quantity.

Body image
You've got terrible self-esteem issues and don't I know it better than anyone else! You were never blessed with a desirably slim figure as a teenager, and ended up going through that awkward "puppy-fat" stage. You'll feel self-conscious of your eyebrows and over-pluck them. The good news is that big brows have their beauty moment from 2013 onwards and you'll soon learn to love yours. Even though you hate your body, things will get better - You'll get curves! You'll put on a load of relationship weight and end up being a miserable size 12. After this break-up, you'll lose a stone and a half and drop to a size 8. Even at your lightest, you will still feel body-conscious at times. You'll realise that the number on the scales has absolutely nothing to do with your happiness. This is something you'll continue to struggle with, but you will slowly start to become more confident in yourself. If you're in need of a little encouragement right now, I'll give you a little spoiler for the future: There will come a day when everyone you meet will constantly comment on how beautiful, long and dark your eyelashes are. You'll also receive many compliments about your legs too!

What piece of advice would you want to give to your teenage self? Comment below.

10 comments:

  1. Great post, I think it's really interesting what we'd say to our younger selves. Personally if I could go back and talk to me years ago, or even last year I'd probably be there for a good few hours trying to tell myself to just calm the hell down (tendency to over panic about everything). That's got me thinking, I wonder what me in a few years would tell me now!

    www.thesundaymode.blogspot.com.au

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    1. I was thinking the exact same thing writing this post. I can just imagine me in 5 years time, criticising my current approach to romantic relationships.

      ♡ Emily x

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  2. Such a great post, Emily! So personal yet applicable. I was just telling my hubby the other day that if I could talk to my teenage self, first thing I would tell her/me is that it gets better when teenage time is over (crappiest time of my life, probably lol). I would say a lot more other things & would give her/me a little smack on the head perhaps :)
    xox Nadia
    http://mielandmint.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thanks! I had a really crap time as a teenager too and I never thought my life would get better, but it did. I hope it'll be even better still in a few years time. Life is a learning curve.

      ♡ Emily x

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  3. Love this idea and reading what you had to say! Just might have to do this myself. Haha.
    Rita x
    Dashofcurves.blogspot.com

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    1. Definitely - I'd love to hear what you'd have to say to yourself, and how that could differ from or be similar to my own experiences. Happy blogging! :)

      ♡ Emily x

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  4. This is such a great idea. I love how it's so personal too! I'd probably tell my younger self that I didn't have to buy everything I see in a clothing store haha but how could you resist right?

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    1. I feel like I still need to tell my current self that at times! haha

      ♡ Emily x

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  5. I needed this post when I was a teenager damn it.
    Tegan xx - Permanent Procrastination

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    1. Me too, Tegan. Only I do think all of my mistakes and awkwardness might have actually helped to shape me into the person I am today - I guess that's a good thing?

      ♡ Emily x

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